Our time in Sydney is drawing to an end. We have thoroughly enjoyed the 1.5months we have been here and P has achieved plenty within this short time. Which, makes me wonder if it is the environment that has allowed him this advantage or is it simply due to his age.
This trip has opened up crossroads for our family. We are happy in Sydney but there's no income here. The environment and education for P in Sydney is a far cry from what we can obtain in Jakarta. How would we weigh the pros and cons?
I do wonder how other families manage situations like these.
Which has led me to the question. Are you a wife or mother first? How do you juggle the two intertwined roles?
Do we separate and evaluate it differently? How do we be great mothers without leaving out the husbands? These roles require meticulous juggling.
Perhaps this is why traditionally the men are the breadwinners and women are homemakers. It maybe a very old fashion view but it worked. There was no boundary to cross and without having to negotiate, argue and be offended things worked, to a certain extent. But in this day and very expensive age, it is not ideal. It is funny how we have come so far in modern technology but traditionalism is still rooted in us.
Is this the reason why people are putting off marriage and divorce statistics growing?
How do we begin to decide when and how we should move back?
Do we place money above our childs' future or do we place our believe that his future will be the saviour & answer to our (hubbys) sacrifice? I am however, leaning towards the later.
I suppose I am in similar shoes as you. Often finding myself asking, when is the right time to move back?
ReplyDeleteCouple of things I know for sure:
1. I need to be prepared and mentally ready for the move.
2. The move involve all member of the family. So they have to be ready too.
3. It is not an over night project. This is definitely a "slow double boil soup".
Give it time to plan and prepare for it. The work and foundation you are providing for P is fantastic.